"To be self- controlled, chaste, homemakers, good natured, adapting and subordinating themselves to their husbands that the word of God may not be exposed to reproach (discredited)"
So like I said before the blog of a certain women inspired me greatly to be a wife that pleases God but also to start my own blog. Her words were like seed to me and it just keeps growing. Unfortunately she stopped posting in 2012, so I can not even tell her this.
In one of her posts she talked about the many different kinds of traditional marriages there are. This indeed is so true, I believe God places each of us in the marriage that fits His plan but also our own unique needs and personality.
So what does my marriage look like and what do we want it to look like, for there are certainly a difference. We all must have our goals for why will we then need lessons in life or spiritual growth if everything was perfect from the start.
Let me see how can I paint this picture for you with my words. I am thirty one years old and so is my husband ( well, almost). We have decided on making some changes to our marriage about a year ago. We changed to a more traditional as well as a DD marriage. At first it was hard and difficult to change our mind sets completely and we did not have enough information on this. But now after a year we know what we want and are working towards it. It is not always easy ,my husband has always been the head in our relationship since we were very young. But now we are taking it up a notch. We talk about decisions we have to make together and he always asks for my opinion but the final call will always be his. I believe and pray that God will give him the wisdom to make the right decisions. Yes, I do get spanked if he feel it is necessary with a belt, cane or his hand. We do not do the "bondage, collar thing" etc. Not because I judge it, it is just not something that we are comfortable with. Like I said before what works for one does not always work for another, all of us must work it out for ourselves. I have a daily to-do-list that I have to complete. We go through it every night and tick or cross out what has been done or not. When there are three crosses against one task there will be consequences of his choice. This list varies from drinking water (2l daily), exercise, respect towards him, language, patience towards the children etc. My husband is a fair and an excellent judge and do take circumstances in consideration before making a cross of course, like a sick child or any other unforeseen situation. This was mainly my suggestion, my husband as usual, just perfected it. I do believe that God loves us equally and values our roles equally, but I do not believe that we are equal in our marriage. I believe that God made men the way He did to lead and to stand in a position of headship, that is simply their role. And we as wives are also blessed with strength but a different kind, our strength lies within our loving, caring, supportive side. Our husbands needs that part of the marriage to lead with confidence knowing his "armed warrior" is there to back him with her obedience and respect. I am not a doormat and do not get treated in that way at all, my children are taught to respect us both but I am the manager of the house and my husband is my superior. I do not buy or make any decisions without him and also try not to go against his decisions regarding the children in front of them. I do however talk to him in private if I disagree, but I still do this in a respectful manner.
Do I get spanked a lot? No, I would consider myself one of the "spoilt DD-wives. But when he has decided it is time, well all I can say is I am definitely sorry afterwards and motivated to get ticks on that list of mine.
I am currently a teacher of a class of thirty three, eight year old children of different kinds of cultures in one class. We would prefer that I did not have a job outside our home but first of all at this point we do need the extra income and it has always been my calling to be a teacher. AT this point me and my husband believe that God wants to use me at this school and until my husband feels otherwise I will fulfill my calling here. WE have two daughters, a four year old and a six year old. My eldest daughter are the artistic one with a very good and interesting imagination my youngest daughter are the wild side of our household and keeps us on our toes with her demanding yet adorable personality.
My husband is my best friend who can be both very dominant and cuddly at the same time.
This is my marriage, my safe haven and unique like any other.
I pray that I will mean something to someone. Even if I can touch one person's life it will be enough. Please feel free to make any prayer requests. Well until next time...
Let me see how can I paint this picture for you with my words. I am thirty one years old and so is my husband ( well, almost). We have decided on making some changes to our marriage about a year ago. We changed to a more traditional as well as a DD marriage. At first it was hard and difficult to change our mind sets completely and we did not have enough information on this. But now after a year we know what we want and are working towards it. It is not always easy ,my husband has always been the head in our relationship since we were very young. But now we are taking it up a notch. We talk about decisions we have to make together and he always asks for my opinion but the final call will always be his. I believe and pray that God will give him the wisdom to make the right decisions. Yes, I do get spanked if he feel it is necessary with a belt, cane or his hand. We do not do the "bondage, collar thing" etc. Not because I judge it, it is just not something that we are comfortable with. Like I said before what works for one does not always work for another, all of us must work it out for ourselves. I have a daily to-do-list that I have to complete. We go through it every night and tick or cross out what has been done or not. When there are three crosses against one task there will be consequences of his choice. This list varies from drinking water (2l daily), exercise, respect towards him, language, patience towards the children etc. My husband is a fair and an excellent judge and do take circumstances in consideration before making a cross of course, like a sick child or any other unforeseen situation. This was mainly my suggestion, my husband as usual, just perfected it. I do believe that God loves us equally and values our roles equally, but I do not believe that we are equal in our marriage. I believe that God made men the way He did to lead and to stand in a position of headship, that is simply their role. And we as wives are also blessed with strength but a different kind, our strength lies within our loving, caring, supportive side. Our husbands needs that part of the marriage to lead with confidence knowing his "armed warrior" is there to back him with her obedience and respect. I am not a doormat and do not get treated in that way at all, my children are taught to respect us both but I am the manager of the house and my husband is my superior. I do not buy or make any decisions without him and also try not to go against his decisions regarding the children in front of them. I do however talk to him in private if I disagree, but I still do this in a respectful manner.
Do I get spanked a lot? No, I would consider myself one of the "spoilt DD-wives. But when he has decided it is time, well all I can say is I am definitely sorry afterwards and motivated to get ticks on that list of mine.
I am currently a teacher of a class of thirty three, eight year old children of different kinds of cultures in one class. We would prefer that I did not have a job outside our home but first of all at this point we do need the extra income and it has always been my calling to be a teacher. AT this point me and my husband believe that God wants to use me at this school and until my husband feels otherwise I will fulfill my calling here. WE have two daughters, a four year old and a six year old. My eldest daughter are the artistic one with a very good and interesting imagination my youngest daughter are the wild side of our household and keeps us on our toes with her demanding yet adorable personality.
My husband is my best friend who can be both very dominant and cuddly at the same time.
This is my marriage, my safe haven and unique like any other.
I pray that I will mean something to someone. Even if I can touch one person's life it will be enough. Please feel free to make any prayer requests. Well until next time...