Through the last two or three years I made the biggest mistakes but also had the most humbling experiences ever. I have learned so much about myself. Most lessons are Godly lessons but some were also practical. A lot of the wisdom I gained, because that is what happens when you learn from your mistakes, was during our discovery of DD/TTWD. Others were from God and then with some my husband was just wise enough to project his wisdom upon me.
- I have learned that you cannot force your ideas on someone else especially when you are the wife and the other person your husband.
- I have learned that when I fail that does not define me it just means there are room for improvement.
- I have learned that when my husband voice his disapproval, disappointment or gives advise it does not mean he thinks less of me or that I am not good enough..
- I have learned true submission is just another form of practicing love, trust and Godly wisdom. It is far more then just a ttwd. It is a gift whether your needs are fulfilled or not. It is your service unto the Lord.
- I have learned that if I ask my husband his opinion about something I had to do, I accept his guidance with much more submission.
- I have learned that looking for fulfillment anywhere else then your own marriage is a big NO and dangerous.
- I have learned God wants us more then just to be submissive wives to His own heart, yes that is very important, but we are also mothers and women of God. He wants to spent time with us. He wants to strengthen us and give us joy over all, not just in our marriages.
- I have learned how easy it is to fall into the traps of the enemy that can be very destructive for our marriages.
- I have learned there is a big difference between lust and intimacy.
- I have learned how to keep my mouth shut when it is not the time for me to speak.
- I have learned to be comfortable with my body during sex and how to enjoy sex and holding nothing back.
- I have experience the joy of pleasing my husband.
- I have learned how to stand up for myself and that it is impossible to please everybody.
- I have learned how to enjoy my own marriage, how to be proud of our unique identity and to be at peace of who we are and what works for us.
- I have learned how to accept myself.
- I have learned how to enjoy everything about my husband even stuff that does not interest me. My acceptance of him and everything about him is part of me being submissive.
- And lastly (though I think I can come up with lots more) but not the least, I have learned that God loves me and accepts me for who I am. Regardless of what I have done or what I need.