The evidence of believe is obedience." Pastor John Hagee (JNR)
Why do we choose to submissive wives for it definitely must be a choice? I believe it is a choice that we have to make every day.
So if this is true, that the evidence of believe is obedience, what would the believe be. In what do we believe?
First of all I believe that God made me in His image, that He loved me (the world) enough to send His only Holy son to die for me and that He is still the same loving and wonderful God that He was back in the days of Genesis. If I believe this, surely I have to believe the word of God which is the Bible. So if the Bible says submit to your husband than it should not be a debatable statement or instruction. Because I believe in God and His word, I will obey it.
Let me take this a bit further. “Wives, be subject (be submissive and adapt yourselves) to your husbands as to the Lord" Eph5:22. Some translations say "as a service to the Lord" .
I know this verse has been used and misused by a lot of preachers and husbands a million times and I am sure this is the one verse we as Christian women know by heart. But give me a chance here; I want to “dissect” this verse. Let us do this by studying the definition of the key words in this verse.
Wife
A women or female spouse joined with a man in marriage.
Subject
Being in a position or in circumstances that place one under the power or authority of another.
Submit
To yield or surrender oneself to the will or authority of another.
Adapt
To make oneself or something suitable or fit for a specific use or situation.
The suitable declaration after the study would be as follow:
I, a woman who is joined in marriage with a man, put myself in the position that places me UNDER the authority of my husband, by yielding myself to his will and make myself suitable and fit for the specific role of a wife in a Christian marriage.
This declaration would come from me, my heart and mind, it is my choice. I read once that being a submissive wife is like giving a gift to your husband as a service to the Lord. A is certainly not something negative. I choose this because I choose God and believe in His word. This is my service to the Lord.
Not because my husband deserves it nor does his part of eph5 and loves me like Christ love the church or any other good and romantic deeds he made do. It will be my service to the Lord because in marriage this is God’s divine order.
1. GOD
2. Husband
3. Wife
This does not make my husband more loved by God it is just how it works, like in everything else in life there are always leadership and followers. God still uses both, leaders and followers for His perfect plan.
Please pray for me since this was a very difficult post for me to do. I do not feel emotionally strong enough at the moment to be the submissive wife desire to be. So this was my challenge to do this post and honour God even though I do not feel like it.